by April Van Scherpe
It's only a few classes into the school year, and my daughter already has a ritual of running gleefully to the Little Wonders gate when we arrive. She is eager to get inside and play! I smile and breathe a huge sigh of relief. Why? Because we're entering a place where my child can happily explore and engage without friction, a zone designed for her enrichment and safety.
This is a "Yes Space."
And guess what? You can create one in your own home.
Popularized by the Respectful Parenting movement, a "Yes Space" is an area where your child can 1) remain safe on their own and 2) play without restrictions (i.e. without redirection or hearing "no"). The point is to allow freedom, which encourages independence and confidence. It is a child-oriented space where a kid can be a kid.
And while that's happening, a parent can take a break from the constant pull to direct and protect. Whether you're playing in the space with your child, working a few feet away, or slipping away for a shower, the "Yes Space" allows both of you some freedom.
Three Steps to Create a "Yes Space"
1. Select an area.
A "Yes Space" can be any size. While we're lucky to have an entire "Yes" facility at Little Wonders, the area in your home can be as compact as a Pack n' Play. If you have an entire room you can dedicate, great. You can also section off a part of a room with baby gates or freestanding play-yard fencing.
When choosing location, consider how and when you'll use the "Yes Space." For example, if it would be useful to have your child play more independently while you fix dinner, pick a spot near the kitchen. If you'll be working around the house and want to keep your child near you, consider a self-contained space like a playpen.
2. Make it childproof and child-friendly.
Apply the same childproofing you would to the rest of your home--and then some. Cover outlets, remove choking hazards, and brace furniture. Beyond that, scrutinize the space for comfort and convenience. Add a mat to soften the floor for younger children. Put toys and books within easy reach. In a larger space, consider using child-sized furniture (e.g. small chairs and short tables). in doing these things, you'll make the child feel welcome and empowered in the space.
3. Add engaging, age-appropriate items.
Choose open-ended toys that can be enjoyed without a partner. If you don't know where to start, try building materials (velcro blocks, DUPLO), reading materials (soft books, board books), and cuddly objects (a stuffed animal or beloved blanket).
You can use your child's current favorite toys to ensure comfort. Or, add something new to captivate them, resulting in longer independent playtime. ("New" can even be an existing item from your home, like spoons and pots to bang together.)
Selections will vary based on your child's age, but make sure to choose items that are fun, safe, and totally "YES"! For example, you may decide that chalk on a chalkboard is OK in this independent play space, but paint is not.
Lastly, don't feel compelled to fill the entire area. A couple of items may be enough. Your child will benefit from open space to roll, crawl, play, or dance.
Give a "Yes Space" a shot, and let us know if it brought some Little Wonders freedom to your own home!